A Father to the Fatherless

I still miss my dad. He’s been gone for just about 6 and a half years now so I, like so many others, have no Father to call and wish a Happy Father’s Day. But even though the pancreatic cancer took him so suddenly and cruelly, in truth, I was without a father long before he left this earth. My dad taught me many good things:

He taught me to work hard – I began working at 13 and never really stopped. Academics came first, but work was valued.

He taught me to dream big.

He taught me to build things and change tires and drive a stick shift.

He taught me that I could do much more than I thought I could.

So many good lessons – but along with the good lessons, there were many terrible lessons, lessons that I’ve spent a long time with the Lord trying to erase. There were awful things that happened that wounded me deeply. And since my dad was bitter & angry at my decision to follow Jesus, he also fought against me spiritually. Earthly fathers fail and mess up – we all do. It’s the human condition. But the most freeing lesson I learned was that my Heavenly father – well, He is nothing like my earthly Father. The Lord is a Father to the Fatherless. When we don’t have a father who will love us and help us grow spiritually and when even the good lessons are tainted with worldly ideas, our Heavenly Father can redeem and change and heal us and be the Father we never had.

But we have to ask Him. We have to let Him. And we have to be willing to engage in that relationship and really get to know who God is. We have to be willing to submit ourselves to the Potter’s Hands. So if you’re like me, and there is no father to call, then tuck in close with our Heavenly Father who cares about us much more deeply and passionately than we can ever understand.


(This was my dad holding my second child – this is how I choose to remember him:-)



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5 thoughts on “A Father to the Fatherless”

  1. hello, I;m getting ready to teach a class on God being a father to the fatherless and after reding your post, I realize that those that need that father figure in their lives must allow him ACCESS. I pray all is well with you and the Lord. be blessed.

  2. Sarah,

    Thank you so much for posting this post. I miss my father too. He has been gone 5 years 1 month and 3 days. God is so good that we can come to Him and He will be there for us. I can’t wish my dad Happy Father’s day, but for my Heavenly Father, every day is Father’s Day.

    We are so blessed to know the Lord.

  3. I love the phrase you wrote “…then tuck in close with our Heavenly Father.” Your words are an enouragement to me this morning. Just when I think I’ve put the past behind me of being raised in a household of an alcoholic father, old feelings resurface to rob me of the joy of my present life. Thank you for reminding me of the love of our Heavenly Father and the nature of the relationship He offers to all of us.

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